Today is day number 12 since the start of my celibacy regime on March 20th. Here are my observations so far:
1. There are simply too many opportunities in the course of a single day for the thoughts to flow in uncelibate directions. When the first involuntary uncelibate thought appears, I become conscious of it at once and stop any more successive thoughts. Occasionally, a second uncelibate thought appears in quick succession, before I have had a chance to stop the flow. Before celibacy (BC), I might have let the thoughts flow on to see what fantasy or story or action they would lead to. Now, I just stop them as soon as they appear.
2. The above effort to catch and stop involuntary thoughts as they appear during the course of each day has turned every day living into an experience in self-observation. It is interesting to see just how many triggers there are in the course of a normal day, which can lead to uncelibate thoughts.
3. One night last week, I had a sexual dream and I woke up in the middle of the dream to stop it from continuing. I don't even remember what the dream was about.
4. The moments of weakness seem to occur rather consistently are the morning hours when I am barely awake. My body's natural physical needs cause my half-awake mind to have uncelibate dreams/fantasies. I wake up and stop the dream/fantasy from progressing. Eventually I drift back to half-sleep and another dream/fantasy crops up. The only way to stop this is to just get out of bed and get on with my day's activities.
5. There have been a few moments of ambivalence: If I come across a sexual picture or video online, is it okay to see it if I don't let myself be affected by it? Is it okay to share a dirty joke with a friend? Is it okay to continue being friendly and communicating with someone I find physically attractive as long as I make no moves? Do any of these actions cause me to break the rules of celibacy as I have defined them?
6. There has been no great temptation to break any of my celibacy rules. No withdrawal symptoms. No fight to control urges.
7. The first 10 days were very easy actually. The last two days have brought higher number of involuntary uncelibate thoughts and physical feelings. It is not too difficult to stop them though. Hope they don't increase in the coming days.
8. I have also been in less good spirits the last two days. Is it related to this celibacy experiment or is it due to the events in my life or is it a combination of the two? I'm not sure...
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Costco gets real chapatis
Last weekend, I saw what seemed to be real wheat chapatis in the refrigerated section of a Costco location here. They were called "roti-chapatis".
"Costco chapatis" have been popular among many Indians. What we called Costco chapatis were really the Tortilla-land brand, uncooked flour tortillas. They were much better than the cooked tortillas you find in most stores and very convenient to make. Especially when you have a large group to cater to. However, it's not very healthy as it is made with enriched wheat flour.
Now, Costco seems to have a healthier option for all the lazy Indians out there who won't make their own chapatis from scratch - "roti-chapatis" from Roti-land! From the branding and the packaging, it is definitely targetted at the Indians and Indian-foodies. It's made by the same people in San Diego, who made the Tortilla-land tortillas. The front of the pack says it's made with 'durum wheat floor'. The back says it's made with both enriched wheat flour and durum wheat flour - no word about the relative proportions.
So, what's the verdict on taste? Pretty good. Very similar to home-made chapatis. The size is somewhat smaller than the old flour tortillas. It also costs more - $6.99 for 30 pieces, compared to $6.29 for 44 of the flour tortillas.
Not sure if this is available at all Costco locations. If you find it in yours, definitely try it out.
"Costco chapatis" have been popular among many Indians. What we called Costco chapatis were really the Tortilla-land brand, uncooked flour tortillas. They were much better than the cooked tortillas you find in most stores and very convenient to make. Especially when you have a large group to cater to. However, it's not very healthy as it is made with enriched wheat flour.
Now, Costco seems to have a healthier option for all the lazy Indians out there who won't make their own chapatis from scratch - "roti-chapatis" from Roti-land! From the branding and the packaging, it is definitely targetted at the Indians and Indian-foodies. It's made by the same people in San Diego, who made the Tortilla-land tortillas. The front of the pack says it's made with 'durum wheat floor'. The back says it's made with both enriched wheat flour and durum wheat flour - no word about the relative proportions.
So, what's the verdict on taste? Pretty good. Very similar to home-made chapatis. The size is somewhat smaller than the old flour tortillas. It also costs more - $6.99 for 30 pieces, compared to $6.29 for 44 of the flour tortillas.
Not sure if this is available at all Costco locations. If you find it in yours, definitely try it out.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Starting the Celibacy Experiment
I have decided to start an experiment to see how long I can remain celibate!
To begin with, it is not as if I have women falling all over me every night. In fact, I have not been intimate with a woman for a long time. So, what is the need for the celibacy experiment?
Well, I am currently going through a period of being single, alone and free. It is a very liberating experience. I am enjoying the feeling of peace and contentment for most of my waking hours. But occasionally, feelings of desire and need for a woman's company sneak in. A part of my mind immediately seizes upon that feeling and starts running with it like a hungry wolf following a prey's scent. That disturbs the rare peace and contentment in this stage of my life. If I let my mind continue running on that trail, I know that it is only a matter of time before my actions will follow suit and that will be the end of this peaceful stage. After close to a decade of these games and drama, I am not ready to let go of my peace just yet. Hence, the need for strict celibacy.
For the purposes of this experiment, here's what I define as celibacy:
The count of my celibate days starts today, March 20th, 2009. If I break any one of the above 5 rules, the count restarts again and you can read about my defeat here.
To begin with, it is not as if I have women falling all over me every night. In fact, I have not been intimate with a woman for a long time. So, what is the need for the celibacy experiment?
Well, I am currently going through a period of being single, alone and free. It is a very liberating experience. I am enjoying the feeling of peace and contentment for most of my waking hours. But occasionally, feelings of desire and need for a woman's company sneak in. A part of my mind immediately seizes upon that feeling and starts running with it like a hungry wolf following a prey's scent. That disturbs the rare peace and contentment in this stage of my life. If I let my mind continue running on that trail, I know that it is only a matter of time before my actions will follow suit and that will be the end of this peaceful stage. After close to a decade of these games and drama, I am not ready to let go of my peace just yet. Hence, the need for strict celibacy.
For the purposes of this experiment, here's what I define as celibacy:
- No physical intimacy with a woman - obviously.
- No non-physical sexual intimacy with a woman. This includes being romantic, 'sweet', flirtatious, etc. - the many not-so-innocent actions through which women creep into my life.
- No 'taking care' of self.
- No deliberate / conscious fantasizing of a sexual or romantic nature. Involuntary thoughts that come up unbidden are okay, if I let them pass away as soon as they appear.
- No deliberate / conscious thought or action to seek a woman's company.
The count of my celibate days starts today, March 20th, 2009. If I break any one of the above 5 rules, the count restarts again and you can read about my defeat here.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Unlimited Free Calls With Google Voice
Does your cellphone service have a myFaves or My Circle type of feature? Then you can use Google Voice to make unlimited phone calls. Before I show how, do you know what Google Voice is? Read on...
As an existing Grand Central user, I was invited a couple of days ago to switch to the newest service from Google called Voice. Google bought Grand Central in July 2007, and it took so long for them to release it as their own service. I must say the new Gmail-like interface of Google Voice is extremely elegant and intuitive to use, compared to the old Grand Central interface. In fact, I LOVE the new interface.
Google Voice is essentially a call forwarding service. When you sign-up for the service (it is still not open to the general public - apparently, I'm no longer 'general public' ;-)), you will choose a phone number to be assigned to your account. When people call this number, you can set it up so that it will forward the call to any of your numerous phones simultaneously. You can answer the call from any phone that is close to you. So, you can give out this one number as your permanent phone number to people, and never have to miss a call. When you change your office, home or cell phone number, there is no longer a need to update everyone because your Google Voice number will still be the same and it can be setup to forward calls to your new number. That is the core service.
In addition to the core service, there are a number of other features which make this a very useful thing to sign up for - you can choose to send an incoming call directly to the voice mail and listen-in on the voice mail while it is being recorded, you can cut in on a voice mail while it is being recorded, you can record a personal greeting for every contact in your address book (the service is integrated with your Gmail's Contacts), you can host free conference calls, send free text messages, receive text messages, make very cheap international calls and make free calls to anywhere in the US.
And, you could rig your Google Voice service to make unlimited free calls from your cell phone. Here's how:
1. You need a myFaves or My Circle type of service which lets you make unlimited phone calls from your cell phone to specific phone numbers, which you can designate as your unlimited calls circle.
2. Add your Google Voice number to your myFaves or My Circle unlimited calls circle.
3. Go to your Google Voice page and initiate a call from there, choosing your cell phone as the "Phone to ring". Google Voice will dial out the number you wish to call and it will simultaneously ring your cell phone to connect you to the call. The caller-ID on your cell phone will appear as if the call is coming from your Google Voice number. And since this number is part of your unlimited calls circle, you can talk as long as you want on this call, without using up any of your cell phone minutes. That is how you can make unlimited outgoing calls from your cell phone using the Google Voice interface.
4. You can also use the Google Voice number to receive unlimited incoming calls on your cell phone. To do this, you should add your Google Voice number to your unlimited calls circle. Then, configure your Google Voice service to display your Google Voice number as the caller-ID whenever people call that number, instead of displaying the caller's phone number. Now, every time people call your Google Voice number, your cell phone will only see your Google Voice number as the caller-ID. Since your Google Voice number is part of your unlimited calls circle, the received call will be totally free as well regardless of how long you talk. Only draw back about receiving call this way is that, you lose the ability see the caller's true phone number on your cell phone screen.
Even if you don't use Google Voice to extend your free cell phone minutes, it is still a great service in its own right. If Google can integrate this service with Google Talk and release Google Voice apps for smartphones, that'll be sweet.
Keep an eye out for this service so that you can sign up as soon as they open up to the public. If you are already a Google Voice user and you know of any other cool tricks to extend its utility, leave a comment.
Update on 3/22/2009: If you are too impatient to wait until Google opens up this service to the general public, you can try earning an invite by leaving a funny voice message to the Google Voice team on (408) 72-VOICE. If the Google team likes your message, they will send you an invite. Check out Google Voice on Twitter for more updates.
As an existing Grand Central user, I was invited a couple of days ago to switch to the newest service from Google called Voice. Google bought Grand Central in July 2007, and it took so long for them to release it as their own service. I must say the new Gmail-like interface of Google Voice is extremely elegant and intuitive to use, compared to the old Grand Central interface. In fact, I LOVE the new interface.
Google Voice is essentially a call forwarding service. When you sign-up for the service (it is still not open to the general public - apparently, I'm no longer 'general public' ;-)), you will choose a phone number to be assigned to your account. When people call this number, you can set it up so that it will forward the call to any of your numerous phones simultaneously. You can answer the call from any phone that is close to you. So, you can give out this one number as your permanent phone number to people, and never have to miss a call. When you change your office, home or cell phone number, there is no longer a need to update everyone because your Google Voice number will still be the same and it can be setup to forward calls to your new number. That is the core service.
In addition to the core service, there are a number of other features which make this a very useful thing to sign up for - you can choose to send an incoming call directly to the voice mail and listen-in on the voice mail while it is being recorded, you can cut in on a voice mail while it is being recorded, you can record a personal greeting for every contact in your address book (the service is integrated with your Gmail's Contacts), you can host free conference calls, send free text messages, receive text messages, make very cheap international calls and make free calls to anywhere in the US.
And, you could rig your Google Voice service to make unlimited free calls from your cell phone. Here's how:
1. You need a myFaves or My Circle type of service which lets you make unlimited phone calls from your cell phone to specific phone numbers, which you can designate as your unlimited calls circle.
2. Add your Google Voice number to your myFaves or My Circle unlimited calls circle.
3. Go to your Google Voice page and initiate a call from there, choosing your cell phone as the "Phone to ring". Google Voice will dial out the number you wish to call and it will simultaneously ring your cell phone to connect you to the call. The caller-ID on your cell phone will appear as if the call is coming from your Google Voice number. And since this number is part of your unlimited calls circle, you can talk as long as you want on this call, without using up any of your cell phone minutes. That is how you can make unlimited outgoing calls from your cell phone using the Google Voice interface.
4. You can also use the Google Voice number to receive unlimited incoming calls on your cell phone. To do this, you should add your Google Voice number to your unlimited calls circle. Then, configure your Google Voice service to display your Google Voice number as the caller-ID whenever people call that number, instead of displaying the caller's phone number. Now, every time people call your Google Voice number, your cell phone will only see your Google Voice number as the caller-ID. Since your Google Voice number is part of your unlimited calls circle, the received call will be totally free as well regardless of how long you talk. Only draw back about receiving call this way is that, you lose the ability see the caller's true phone number on your cell phone screen.
Even if you don't use Google Voice to extend your free cell phone minutes, it is still a great service in its own right. If Google can integrate this service with Google Talk and release Google Voice apps for smartphones, that'll be sweet.
Keep an eye out for this service so that you can sign up as soon as they open up to the public. If you are already a Google Voice user and you know of any other cool tricks to extend its utility, leave a comment.
Update on 3/22/2009: If you are too impatient to wait until Google opens up this service to the general public, you can try earning an invite by leaving a funny voice message to the Google Voice team on (408) 72-VOICE. If the Google team likes your message, they will send you an invite. Check out Google Voice on Twitter for more updates.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Star Trek - The Menagerie
I have begun to watch old episodes of Star Trek, starting right from Episode 1 of Season 1. The Full Episodes of Star Trek seasons 1, 2 and 3 are available on CBS.com.
I just finished watching a most interesting episode called The Menagerie, which also happens to be a beautiful piece of science fiction writing. If you have a couple of hours to spare, I encourage you to check out the following two-part video.
The story begins, quite unbelievably, with Mr Spock himself rebelling against his superiors and hijacking the starship Enterprise. This is the episode in which Mr Spock comes into his own and totally outplays Captain Kirk. His last line is just too good: "I see no reason to insult me, Sir. I believe I have been completely logical about the whole affair. That shuts up the smug Captain Kirk, alright.
The Menagerie - Part 1
The Menagerie - Part 2
I just finished watching a most interesting episode called The Menagerie, which also happens to be a beautiful piece of science fiction writing. If you have a couple of hours to spare, I encourage you to check out the following two-part video.
The story begins, quite unbelievably, with Mr Spock himself rebelling against his superiors and hijacking the starship Enterprise. This is the episode in which Mr Spock comes into his own and totally outplays Captain Kirk. His last line is just too good: "I see no reason to insult me, Sir. I believe I have been completely logical about the whole affair. That shuts up the smug Captain Kirk, alright.
The Menagerie - Part 1
The Menagerie - Part 2
Thursday, March 05, 2009
Cilantro: Put It In Her Taco
"Cilantro cilantro" has been stuck in my head like an insistent song since last evening. This is the most awesome video I've seen in recent days. That's all.
Cilantro: Put It In Her Taco -- powered by Cracked.com
Cilantro: Put It In Her Taco -- powered by Cracked.com
Google Tip Jar - Money saving tips
Google has launched a timely new service for people around the world to share their money saving tips: Tip Jar.
People submit tips and other people will vote on the tips. The idea is that the best tips will bubble up to the top.
Check it out. Share your tips.
People submit tips and other people will vote on the tips. The idea is that the best tips will bubble up to the top.
Check it out. Share your tips.
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